I Could Do Anything by Barbara Sher
It's still a relatively strange concept to hold conversations with my children that are on a deeper level than discussing toys, early childhood concepts and diapers. Four years ago I thought only about having more children. That very thought consumed every bit of me. I just wanted to experience pregnancy, birth, babies, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, toddlers and preschool over and over again. Four years later I'm the mother of an 8 and 11 year old and I'm actually enjoying the next stage of parenting and especially a full nights sleep. I love talking to my children and hearing their thoughts on the world as they grow older.
Keiran at the moment is obsessed about owning a Ferrari. I'll blame Dave for introducing him but Keiran's passion for cars is probably one part to do with him and another part to do with his grandfather who loves anything that moves including trains, boats, trolleys and cars. Keiran has also told me that he's going to be a professional football (English Soccer) player because they earn millions and that would give him enough money to buy a Ferrari and possibly a Bugatti.
When Keiran was younger and told us that he wanted to go to Mars we never disagreed with him telling him that he was silly. We'd always encourage his wishes and desires. Sometimes we'd chime in that he'd have to do a lot of training for space travel but we wouldn't dampen the conversation by telling him that no one has ever been to Mars. Of course as stubborn as that sweet boy is, he'd probably tell us that he'd be the first one on Mars.
Do you have mentors? I do, quite a few and most of them have no idea that I consider them a mentor. The on-line dictionary states that a mentor is: a wise and trusted counselor or teacher. I look at people who have changed my thinking and therefor changed my life as my mentors.
Barbara Sher taught me that it was okay to be passionate about thrifting. She even taught me that it was okay to take a course in French if I wanted and never speak another word of it. My personality is drawn toward experiences rather than necessarily learning things. My brain isn't a sponge that takes in details about many things and keeps it there. It takes it in and kicks it back out. I have trouble even reading instructions because it's just not written in a language that I can comprehend. It makes my head spin.
I struggle with facts about history, science, math and any other subject that is written in a factual way. I can read a magazine article today but only retain a whisper of the facts. Yet as I read it I do feel inspired by the words if it is something that interest me. Right now I'm reading from the current issue of Modernism Magazine about the Kaufmann family. The article fascinates me as I read it but what will I retain? Probably enough to use for ReSelling but nothing more. In fact, part of the reason that I am intrigued by the article is that I sold a book on the Kaufmann House in Palm Springs for over a hundred dollars.
I used to think that I was stupid because my brain didn't seem to work like anyone elses. One of my older brothers seems to read things and retain every single word. Why couldn't I do that? I grew up in a school system meant for children who could memorize text and use that for test and quizzes. Anyone who appeared a dreamer didn't fit in. I know that I certainly didn't.
It was only after marriage to someone who loved every last bit of me that helped me start to feel good about myself. He seemed to think that my clumsiness was sweet and that when I messed up expressions such as "a dozen a dime" was endearing. He didn't judge me but instead simply loved me. This was something that my 12 years of education never offered me.
Barbara Sher's book "Refuse to Choose" was the last step to truly accepting me for who I am. I forgave myself for being eccentric, odd, silly, energetic and a person whose brain appeared to work differently than most everyone that I knew. Not only did I offer forgiveness but I was finally able to embrace my personality. The same one that was not accepted by my schoolmates, sometimes my family and definitely not by ex-boyfriends (the ones who would roll their eyes at me).
When I discovered Barbara Sher and Refuse to Choose it made me realize that I wasn't alone, that there were many people like me struggling through life and that I can do anything that I want to do. That's when my life started to really click. I gave into my passion of thrifting, my blog took off in ways that I never expected and people began to look at me as an expert in all things thrifty. While I was a little shocked and surprised it also began to feel natural. I loved what I was doing.
Barbara says in the book "I Could Do Anything":
"I'm convinced that if you don't know what you want, something is stopping you from knowing it. Something - a hidden resistance - is making you hesitate to find your true desire and go after it. Positive thinking alone will never take you past this buried obstacle; pretending nothing is wrong won't get you anywhere either."
It took me years to learn that thrifting was my passion. I mean how odd a passion to buy something something that someone didn't want? When I came to terms and accepted thrifting as my passion, that was the point that I started to make money doing it. That is the beauty of passion when you start doing what's in your heart and money follows rather than chasing the money first and then trying to find passion in what you are doing. Believe me I've tried many jobs and crafts chasing passion that in the end fizzled away to nothing. We can look at my blog Flavorstitch as the perfect example. Yet I wouldn't change a thing because it brought me back to Apron Thrift Girl with more passion than ever.
The book, "I Could Do Anything, If I Only Knew What It Was" is a book on how to discover what you really want and how to get it. I picked up the book at a yard sale so it is used but I want to give it to one of you. If you are struggling with finding your passion than this might be the book to help you on the right path. As humans we are so passionate and we need to find out what makes our soul sing and our heart beat faster.
I want to hear about your dreams. What would you do if you could choose anything? It can be wild and crazy as you'd like. Leave a comment and a week from now I'll announce the winner on Facebook.